So it’s official and we have a plan in place

ok So on 3/23/12 we were given the official diagnosis of Asperger’s for our JM. The doctor said in her test he does not have ADD or ADHD so that is one good thing.

Since the diagnosis I have read two books, searched over the internet, gone to two support group meetings, had a playdate with a mom and her three Aspie kids (with my kids as well) and have continued in JM’s group and one on one counseling sessions. And no I do not believe in doing anything half way. At first I was sad, now I am totally ok with this. More importantly he is ok with it. It is actually a bit relieving. When he starts rambling or acting inappropriately I just calmly remind him and he seems so much more in time with what is happening in his body.

True to Asperger form he is very matter of fact about what is going on with him and he actually comes to me more and tells me when he doesn’t understand when he is feeling a certain way or if something is said he “doesn’t get”.

I have found that there are so many different ways Asperger’s effects different people so that is a bit of a challenge but I feel like the medication, different behavior strategies and counseling are all working very well for us at this time.

Today we had our first planning meeting at the school for JM and his 504 plan. It was a rush job due to the fact that FCATs are next week and we wanted it in place before this. The school was very accommodating with what I wanted to add. I do get a good feeling that they do have my boy’s best interest in mind. We have the wheels in motion for an IEP meeting. So I am hoping that will go smooth. I will post more about the steps and strategies we have put into place for him.

He has been doing really good though. I am proud of him.

Who would Grandma vote for on AI?

My Grandmother died in 1990, I was 15 years old. I was thinking of her today while I was watching American Idol. (yes I watch American Idol and yes I thought of her during this show). I wondered who she would have voted for, who would have struck her fancy. It’s funny actually, here is a woman I knew less then half my life (even less if you consider a human really has very few memories from infancy until around four years old). I knew her a shorter period of time then my spouse and yet when I think about her loss I can still get weak in the knees or laugh hysterically at what I *think* she would find funny.

I wonder what she would say about JM’s corks or MD’s sassy mouth. What she would say about my diet struggles or the fact of how much I worry and make almost everything a level 10 situation.

I wonder though how much is it a true longing to speak to her about grown up things or just has her image just faded in time for me. How much have I distorted her being in my mind due to time passing? Made her to be this perfect, always caring, always happy and smiling person? I wish I knew. It almost seems impossible to mourn a person this long. Not that I am a puddle of tears. I just miss her and wish she were here, I wish my kids could meet her. I wish I could ask her things.

Just for Kayci!!!

I read this post on This Blog and I had to repost it.

Today is a much awaited day. It’s the day The Hunger Games premieres in theaters! Who’s going to see it?? We are! In honor of this wonderful day, we thought we’d give suggestions on books you might enjoy if you enjoyed The Hunger Games. To help you know a little bit about each book and how it might be similar to The Hunger Games, we’ve taken several elements from the book to use for comparison.

Here are the categories:

  • futuristic- It takes place in a continent (either North America or fictional) in the future.
  • survival- Characters must learn how to survive in rough circumstances- primarily the wilderness.
  • love story- Characters show interest in one another that unfolds through the novel.
  • adventure packed- Each chapter leaves you going *gasp* and you HAVE to read the next one, only to find that it ends in the same manner.
  • contains a revolt- Something isn’t right with the government, and they’re going to do something about it.
  • girl protagonist- The main character or the one the story is following is a girl.
  • series- Contains more than one book.
  • YA- These books are written and marketed for young adults (approximately ages 10-20).

The Books: (In descending order, beginning with the best matches.)

The Giver by Lois Lowry Jonas is a young boy living in a Utopian town.  Everything is perfect where he lives.  When children turn 12  they are assigned a job, so when Jonas turns 12 he is named the next  ‘Giver’ .  This job changes his life because it opens his eyes to things about his society and its past.  Jonas faces difficult choices about his future and the future of his people. futuristic- yes survival- yes love story- yes (later in series) adventure packed- yes contains a revolt- yes girl protagonist- no, but yes in later books series- yes, 3 books total ya- yes, Reading Level 5.9

The Uglies by Scott Westerfeld Tally and Shay are two teen girls growing up in a society where they are “Uglies” until the age of 16. Upon your 16th birthday you undergo an operation that makes you a Pretty. Through many adventures, decisions, twists, and turns the character uncovers truths about the current world she lives in and the people she is governed by. futuristic- yes survival- yes love story– yes adventure packed- yes contains a revolt- yes girl protagonist- yes series- yes, 4 books total ya- yes, reading level 5.1-6.1

City of Ember by Jeanne DuPrau Ember is a city of darkness lit only by lamps where the people live off food kept in storerooms. When the lights they use continue to flicker and the shelves of food become empty it makes survival impossible. It will only be a matter of time before the life they know is over. Young friends Doon and Lina are determined to find a way to help their people survive.  Read Lena and Doon’s adventure of how they try to bring hope to their city! futuristic- yes survival- yes, from hunger love story- an affection story, wouldn’t call it love adventure packed- yes contains a revolt- somewhat in some parts girl protagonist- yes series- yes, 3 books + prequel = 4 total ya- yes, level 4.9-5.2

Among the Hidden by Margaret Peterson Haddix Imagine you live in a country with strict population laws. Only two children per family. What happens when you are the third child? What will you do? futuristic- yes survival- somewhat love story- no, strong friendships adventure packed- yes contains a revolt- yes girl protagonist- each book contains a different protagonist. Some are girls, some are not! series- yes, 7 books total ya- yes, levels 4.8-5.6

Found by Margaret Peterson Haddix Jonah discovers one day that his life is not what it appears to be. Not only is he adopted, but he belongs somewhere else entirely! The journey begins when he receives a note saying “You are one of The Missing.” futuristic- yes survival- yes love story- maybe? adventure packed- yes contains a revolt- yes girl protagonist- no series- yes, 4 books total ya- yes, level 4.6

Dark Life by Kat Falls Ty, the main character lives with his family in the world’s first subsea community, where they provide fish and other food for the citizens of North America’s remaining communities on land. Ty is swept up in an unexpected chase for bandits who are out to get take everything from his family. He learns more about people he thought he knew, and in return they learn more about him too! futuristic- yes survival- yes love story- yes adventure packed- yes contains a revolt- yes girl protagonist- no series- yes, 2 so far ya- yes, level 4.3

The Lightning Thief by Rick Riordan Percy, a teen boy finds out he’s a half-blood and later learns that his destiny involves having to make a choice of whether or not to save the world. He takes along 2 friends with him to fight creatures (and Gods!) from Greek mythology hidden among our world. Will he and his friends have what it takes to complete the incredible mission they have been given? futuristic- no survival- yes, trying to save the world love story- yes, slightly adventure packed- yes contains a revolt- yes, against the Gods girl protagonist- no series- yes, 5 books total ya- yes, level 4.1-4.7

Peter and the Starcatchers by Dave Barry and Ridley Pearson This is Peter Pan before he becomes Peter Pan. Find out how he became able to fly. How does he know Wendy? Each book is a new adventure (yet building on the last) and equally as good as the last. futuristic- no survival- yes love story- contains hints at one adventure packed- yes contains a revolt- yes, against the “Others” girl protagonist- told from Peter’s point of view, but there is a girl main character series- yes, 4 books total ya- yes, level 5.2-5.6

PEAK by Roland Smith Ok, this book does not have as many yes’s. BUT it is an awesome book, so much so that we couldn’t leave it out. If your favorite elements of The Hunger Games were survival (in the arena) and adventure, then this is a good pick for you. futuristic- no survival- yes, in wilderness in the mountains love story- no adventure packed- yes contains a revolt- no girl protagonist- no series- no ya- yes, level 5.0

Here are some more great books that we’ve heard have commonalities with The Hunger Games, but unfortunately we haven’t read yet. We look forward to reading:

  • The Secret Hour (1st in trilogy) by Scott Westerfield
  • Matched (1st in trilogy) by Ally Condie
  • Divergent (1st in series) by Veronica Roth
  • The Maze Runner (1st in trilogy + a prequel) by James Dashner
  • Birthmarked (1st in trilogy) by Caragh M. O’Brien
  • Across the Universe (1st in series) by Beth Revis
  • Graceling (has 2 companion books) by Kristin Cashore
  • Partials by Dan Wells
  • Cinder by Marissa Meyer
  • Ashes, Ashes by Jo Treggiari
  • Incarceron by Catherine Fisher
  • The Scorpio Races by Maggie Stiefvater
  • The Eleventh Plague by Jeff Hirsch
  • Legend by Marie Lu
  • The Bar Code Tattoo by Suzanne Weyn
  • Life as We Knew It (1st in trilogy) by Susan Beth Pfeffer

*** Crazymommy has read a few of the above. I really like the Matched books as well as the Maze Runner books and for sure the Giver. I reposted because many of the others are in my “to read” book I keep by my side. I really want to read Legend by Marie Lu. I would also add the Parable of the Sower and The Parable of the Talents by Octavia E Butler to this list. Those two books were awesome!

I have a ready buddy of sorts out West who I know will love many of the books listed (if she hasn’t already read them.

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