I am writing in regards to your story on the Family Bed (sleep sharing or co-sleeping) Your story angle shade a dark cast on the family bed in my opinion. We are a co-sleeping family. We have a three year old son and a twelve month old daughter. Our daughter currently prefers to sleep in a crib beside our bed (sidecaring)while our son from birth prefers to be in our family bed. This is a common practice for family who believe in Attachment Parenting or AP style parenting. My personal belief if everyone is happy then it is what should be happening. The idea behind AP is follow your heart. So often as parents we are told baby should be doing this or if you don’t do this ____ negative thing will happen. That is simply not true. Our animal instinct is to protect and care for our off spring. Our instinct almost always are right on the mark. I spoke to my doctor when my son was three days old. Telling him my baby cries after I nurse him and put him in his crib to sleep. I was told this is normal. It is normal for mom to be emotional but a baby needs to cry it out, he said. I am so thankful I ignored this advice, brought our baby into our bed following my heart and the crying stopped. What makes us believe after nine month of constant bonding an infant would like to retire to a big quiet crib in his or her own room alone? For that matter why do adults share a bed when not engaged in sexual relations? I will tell you, human being need to feel comfort. We need to feel safe, protected and bonded. Sometimes our son will have a bad dream or cry out in the night. We are there to comfort him even before he fully wakes up. Our daughter is still very close beside our bed and we get the same effect. When she tosses and turns in the night we can comfort her before she fully wakes up. Everyone as a result has a better, longer rest.
Higher self-esteem. Boys who coslept with their parents between birth and five years of age had significantly higher self-esteem and experienced less guilt and anxiety. For women, co-sleeping during childhood was associated with less discomfort about physical contact and affection as adults (Lewis & Janda, 1988). Co-sleeping appears to promote confidence, self-esteem, and intimacy, possibly by reflecting an attitude of parental acceptance (Crawford, 1994).
This is just a part of why co-sleeping is the right choice for our family. Please review
I do want to mention co-sleeping needs to be practiced in a safe way. No one in the bed should be over weight, using alcohol or drugs.
I feel if you are going to cover the why not to co-sleep the benefits should also be brought to light.